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Written by Michelle E. Vásquez

A loving relationship can go a long way to heal the hurts of the past. You trust each other enough to be vulnerable instead of defensive. You are able to explore past hurts and let them go. You can grow together as you co-create the relationship of your dreams.

You can allow yourself to be vulnerable

When you are able to trust the one you’re with, you can allow yourself to be vulnerable and let down your guard. You understand that your partner is not going to repeat the hurts of the past, at least not intentionally. You can begin to redefine yourself with your partner and let go of previous pain. It may be scary to be this vulnerable, but it gets easier as you go along and build positive experiences together.

You can explore past hurts

With the help of someone you have chosen to trust, you can explore past hurts. Letting go of the pain of the past is never a straight path. Inside your relationship, you choose new patterns to replace the old ones that did not work for you. When you both turn toward each other with support and acceptance, you don’t have to reach for defensiveness as your first reaction.

You have the opportunity to grow as a couple

What is best about this is you and your partner have an amazing opportunity to grow as a couple. You get to work together to create a happy, passionate relationship. The rewards of this are limitless and you are able to do this because you trust the one you love. You get to decide to break the negative patterns of your respective pasts and live in a way that suits the two of you best.

It’s not easy to do this and often, even if couples have the best of intentions, they need outside help to create this wonderful, trusting life together. That’s where relationship coaching comes in handy. You can create your vision for your relationship and set your goals for living the life you’ve dreamed of with the one you love.

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Michelle E. Vásquez, MS, LPC, is an RCI Relationship Coach who helps singles and couples attract the life they want and create the relationships that bring them joy. She specializes in working with couples who are experiencing relationship difficulties as well as with singles who want to find the love of their life. Bilingual, English and Spanish speaking. www.trueloverelationshipcoaching.com ...

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