Are your children back home or not coming home except for a short visit?

Are your children planning marriage, boot camp, or internships? Season changes into summer. I always long for a vacation. Memories of family trips and splashes in the back yard pool, followed by wet feet on the house floor and burning the BBQ chicken because I answered the phone, visit me when school is out. I can get triggered when I hear my neighbors two young ones bouncing balls and jumping in their pool.

Maybe this summer you can plan a way to sit with someone you enjoy. It could be you sitting with you. My friend is going to begin water coloring rather than large canvas paintings. She will sit with herself and her paints.

Making time to focus on yourself is a good thing whether kids, grandchildren , or family members come to visit. It is different to not fully fall into the mother or father roll and still hold that precious safety and role modeling for children.

If you are going to visit them, would you make plans to see an art exhibit if they couldn’t join you or take yourself out for a walk to a café or do you feel you have to be available to them?

Do you want to sit with a relative, old friend , a mentor?

Making a plan for yourself is self care and I don’t think we practice. We get into the shoulds of being a partner or sibling or daughter or son or parent for sure. A client shared with me that down deep she was afraid if she ...