written by Frankie Doiron  

Tara Kachaturoff interviews Hazel Palache about dating and new beginnings – how singles can set their sights on what they want most when it comes to finding a great relationship.

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Tara: Hazel, it’s almost the New Year and it’s that time for goal setting and making plans for what we most desire in our life. Do you have any advice for singles who are still searching for the love of their life?

Hazel: When it comes to the New Year , I personally don’t like the words “ New Year ’s Resolutions” because, more often than not, it creates too much pressure and then people fail to achieve results and become disappointed.

I prefer to see people making a commitment to themselves to make the coming year a new and fresh start — so that wherever they’ve come from, it can feel starting over from a place of new beginnings.

There are many wonderful people out there looking for great partners and love. In my opinion, being able to connect with oneself, first, is the most important factor in being able to connect with others later. You are your most important partner in life. Loving yourself first is a key factor in attracting someone who will enhance the life you’re already living.

Another thing to look at would be why they feel they haven’t attracted who and what they want in a relationship. Are they really ready to make that kind of commitment? Are they completely comfortable with who they are?

A final thing I would suggest is that singles learn more about relationships. David Steele’s book, Conscious Dating: finding the love of your life in today’s world, is a great place to start. Singles can learn about principles of dating; relationship requirements, needs and wants; and dating mistakes and how to avoid them.

Again, just a couple of these suggestions – adopting an attitude of a fresh start, learning more about oneself, and reading books about dating relationships – all of these things can really make a difference in starting the New Year off well.

Tara: A lot of people talk about having a vision for what they want. What types of things can singles do to create a vision for who and what they’re looking for in a relationship?

Hazel: One thing to consider is goal setting. I know it sometimes seems strange to people to set relationship goals, however putting what you want out into the Universe can be very powerful. I suggest setting a relationship goal in a very specific way.

A strong goal needs to be clear and concise, timed toward the future and written as if it has already occurred. Second, it’s important to use explicit details so your subconscious picks it up as having already occurred. Finally, you should have an end step so you know when you have r...

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